Reconnecting with Departed Loved Ones

Dear Woo-Woo Debbi, Is it possible to reconnect with the departed loved ones? Shankar S., India   Dear Shankar, Absolutely! I really like your term “departed ones” because it conjures the idea of a journey, and that’s exactly what “death” is: a movement from one state to another. When someone we know moves to another state (or province or region) in a geographic sense, we may...

Do you believe in UFOs?

One hot summer weekend, I attended a gathering in a large city park billed as the “3rd Annual Worldwide Summoner Event.” Summoner of what, you ask? Well, some people hail cabs, some beckon fate, and apparently a scant handful of humans—including a Los Angeles man named Robert Bingham—summon UFOs. I went to the event out of curiosity. . .  and because my woo-woo* boyfriend was seriously...

Selective Memory is a Beautiful Thing

Have you ever been accused of having selective memory? As if it’s the crime of the century! Well, most people would define “selective memory” in a negative way—indicative of deceit, flakiness or other horrific character flaws. Most people value realism, facts, and accuracy more than fantasy and as-of-yet unformed possibilities. Most people stay focused on observing “what is” and what has been. . .  rather than...

Your Valentine’s Day Sanity Guide

 LOVE is for YOU. Does that infamous “Hallmark Holiday” trigger emotion for you? Is it the happy or the crappy variety? Either way (and even if V-Day is completely irrelevant to you) I’d like to remind you that thoughts always precede emotions. What do you think about Valentine’s Day, and about Love and Relationships in general? Because whatever YOU personally think and believe determines not just your emotional response,...

What’s the deal with Karma?

Dear Woo-Woo Debbi: What are your thoughts on karma? From all the teachings I’ve studied, I pretty much dismissed it from being real, although I think the Golden Rule is just plain good sense. Diana S. Colorado Springs, CO Dear Diana, Great question! Like soulmates and other woo-woo controversies, the confusion—and the solution—is rooted in definitions. What exactly is karma, anyway? The most popular connotation implies...

How to be Happy—a Geeky Perspective

Particles, Waves and Happiness Back in high school, my quirky but passionate Physics teacher introduced us to particles and waves in an attempt to explain physical matter and energy.  Is it a particle…or is it a wave?  The answer depended on your perspective—and what camp you occupied.  It always seemed to be framed in terms of particles versus waves—this or that—an eternal conundrum, a can’t-be-won existential...

Is your Heart Hankerin’ for a Healing?

LOVE is. . . the great substrate of the universe, the stuff that remains when all that other acquired hogwash is removed. At least that’s part of the definition we came up with during my week-long residential Heartline program at the Monroe Institute in Virginia. Nestled there in the Blue Ridge Mountains, we explored “new approaches for removing the obstacles to love’s expression in our daily...

I was a Camel, plodding across the Love Desert…

Perhaps you can relate. I’d been single for so damn long that it started looking grim—like I was on a long bumpy road headed straight for Spinster City. But I’d sooner take a cliff-dive drive, Thelma-and-Louise style, than reach that destination. I’d become a camel, plodding across the Love Desert, expertly rationing my supplies between oases. I suppose I’d gotten fairly used to trekking solo. Nonetheless,...

Emotional Detox with a Fox: try the 7-Day Mental Diet!

Have you ever tried to abstain from negative thinking for 7 days straight? No negative-speak for an entire week, in your brain or on your mental plane? I’m talking about derailing trains of thought like these: resentment, frustration, worry, dread, regret, jealousy, disapproval, criticism, fear, anger, pessimism, limitation… and that ultimate emotional frontier, victimhood. What does that leave, you ask? Only thoughts that induce love, joy,...

Tapping into Something Powerful (EFT)

A few years ago, I discovered the Emotional Freedom Technique which involves physically tapping certain points on the body that correspond to acupuncture meridians while simultaneously reprogramming the subconscious mind.  It’s sort of an East-meets-West healing modality.  You look and sound really stupid while you’re doing it, but, hey, I’m not proud.  Apparently it had been wildly successful in helping veterans overcome their post-traumatic stress disorder...

A Goddess Allows

I just love how everything is turn-key and divinely orchestrated. One of my soul sisters had acquired a book which she attempted to read, but somehow it just hadn’t resonated with her. But she got the sudden inspiration to send it my way, with an equally sudden understanding that it had actually been meant for me all along. She was merely a cheerful conduit. The book...